[THE BALL] A continuation
No, I will work on the English film "El Bola" argument revolves around the abuse, more specifically, about child abuse. It deprabante place with these situations in the societies in general, deprabante and reportable, and should join the list of "things to eliminate," not tomorrow, but for right now. I do not know if it's correct argument, but hey, it has done what it has been.
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1. SYNOPSIS "El Bola" is the name of a famous English film directed by Achero Manas and won four Goya awards. The protagonist of this film is Paul, a 12 year old boy living in a poor neighborhood of Madrid. Apparently, Paul is a normal guy who lives in a normal environment, but the reality is very different. Mariano, his father, abused mentally and physically to Paul, something well known in the neighborhood, and as usual for the boy. This is true until you get to school a new boy Pablo, Alfredo, who will soon enter into a strong friendship. Gradually, Paul stop being a shy and reserved child, opening his friend and his family, which feel loved as a son. This opportunity to feel supported by a new family atmosphere for him, gives him the strength to leave his family situation and deal with the humiliation and the beatings he receives from his father.
2. DESCRIPTION OF THE TWO MODELS SHOWN IN FAMILY FILM 2.1 Context
BALL FAMILY Paul is a child affected by their circumstances, their family background, victim of abuse from his father and the relationship existed at home. After viewing the film, we realize that Paul's family is very cold, apathetic, authoritarian because of the attitude of the father, where fear is present in both the child and his mother, both victims of the threatening attitude Mariano presented. The grandmother, who lives with them, is a disease and is in a situation of dependence from which the mother takes care of Paul, and it helps (as shown in the scene where the mother Ball and showers) .
Importantly, prior to the birth of the ball, Paul had a brother who died in a traffic accident which never met but with whom the father has always been compared. This generates hatred in Paul, who blames his situation this past event which was not a participant and who are suffering as if it had been responsible. He even criticizes the failure killed him instead of his brother and because of all the misfortunes of this event. Verbatim comments are not really this is the cause of the father's behavior, but I stress this because it is something inherently perceive the story itself. It is an unsolved problem in the past, which has brought severe consequences in the future.
For all this family environment, Paul is devoid of love, freedom, does not have a family to communicate impulses and actions are motivated by fear. Do things because you have to do, not to have friends, working at the hardware store with his father, missing information for fear of reprisals, a haircut because it required her father, eating in silence while Mariano chairs the table as "good head of family, being locked up at home to hide the wounds from the beatings. Generally, Paul maintains an attitude submissive and obedient to the authority figure of his father, because the times have been revealed, have been among the more damage it has caused, to the suffering and helplessness of a mother who is under the state of fear and repression to her son. Troubled lives at home and suffers by his son, but is unable to cope with this situation succumbed to the recklessness of the consequences.
Therefore, Paul does not express his feelings and finds it difficult to talk about his life or his own, which gradually began to change with the arrival of Alfredo, which was opening a door that had always been closed. For the first time, was a friend and a family to lean to end this untenable situation for him.
"I am myself and my circumstances", making this case, all the circumstances of his family background make Paul matures in advance. He has lived a more than difficult and felt the hatred and contempt (which this in itself is hard) by his own father. Has experienced a lack of affection and humiliation by anyone else should be supported, it has had to adjust to family and social environment in which he was alone until the arrival of Alfredo, despite the love of a mother and company of his "friends" with whom he played on the tracks. Noted that, despite this, Paul has developed a good sense of humor, which keeps it is a good friend, educated and intrinsically very very grateful. He is brave when he sees a chance to be, and despite the weight fighter huge unjustly endured. So, with that attitude, perhaps one day definitely does not need accompanying the ball constantly to feel safe ... and without fear.
2.2. FAMILY CONTEXT OF ALFREDO
We are witnessing the antithesis of the Ball family context. Alfredo's family consists of her father Jose, tattoo artist, his mother, his brother and him. They share a very harmonious family environment and friendly to all members, in which the laughs, the dialogue and the enjoyment of seeing a united and happy family is moving all actions. They also have a couple of friends who are involved in the case of Paul, and who conduct tours as a normal family, unknown to him and that, despite their lack of expressiveness, enjoying greatly. Both parents are loving, caring, concerned about the daily lives of their children, and is not in the movie any time of conflict between them (except when Alfredo tries to hide his father where was Paul when he escaped, for fear of re- home with Mariano). In short, use dialogue and good manners in a warm and harmonious, against violence and coldness of the family of Paul. There is total freedom of opinion and expression, and no one is judged bad about it, but took into account and heard, as when Alfredo says his suspicions that Paul is being abused by her father as told at school. Instead of not taking into account such strong accusations, Jose was the same who came to the father's hardware store to contrast the facts and see first hand what the situation was Paul. Alfredo
is free to do what a kid his age can do, but always with a sense of responsibility attached to the front and being consistent with his actions, a capacity for reflection and evaluation that has been inculcated by their parents. They are interested in all kinds of questions, fears, you know because they keep an open family relationship of trust and affection. A clear example is when Jose goes to find Alfredo and Paul to the police station to "play" on the railroad tracks. The father, instead of abroncarle, argues that life is already short enough to expose themselves to do even more, and that if anything happened to him by any act irresponsibly would be doing irreparable harm to his family. Even that day he tattooed on his back, perhaps as a reminder of that great advice he had given, so you never forget it, for he always had this. In this includes Paul "not my son, but as if you were." Here Jose would provide a sense of safety and security which Pablo lacks. In short, use reason and not to educate Alfredo beatings, making him a whole person, mature, thoughtful, open, loyal, expressive, human self, with strong personality, self-esteem ... HAPPY
3. RISK FACTORS AND PROTECTION OF BOTH FAMILIES
After analyzing the family context of both actors, we realize that the environment is completely opposite.
On the one hand, we see the risk factors we see in Paul's family are generated by the authoritarian character of Maria, probably upset because of the death of a child. He represents the major risk factor in history, generating all the consequences of Paul's personality, influenced by the recklessness, lack of family support and love that has grown. This means it can not have a standard personal and emotional development, as every child should have. The mother loves, loves, but she lives perished in a situation of fear that prevents you from acting and dealing with this situation that is running silently, psychologically speaking, his life and that of his own son, which makes to sink more and more blame for this situation. Is already enough pain for a mother losing a child to see that her husband is damaging the lives of all that is left. Therefore, we are talking about social factors (failure to create a parent-child bond, lack of social support until the arrival of Alfredo, perhaps unemployment and inactivity of the mother and the difficulty to relate normally with their peer group), family factors (caused by the loss of a child), which generates the psychological risk factor (disorder and frustration over the loss, generate a rejection feelings towards Paul.)
In this context comes the family and environment Alfredo. Both his parents, like parents friends, like himself, are involved in this story to end the suffering of Paul. Function as the protection factor, security, support the ball, which finds in them a lifeline, or a chance to scream all he has endured. Sees the possibility of revealing and end this pain for the first time has a choice not to conform and not have to keep swallowing, enduring. When you receive the latest beating, goes running to his lair is the place that gives you protection where you will feel wrapped: the home of Alfredo. In no time these give back, but shuffled the most appropriate alternatives always thinking about the good of Paul. Thus, Laura's friend's parents, makes a legal review of the situation, saying that unless they contact parents to inform them that Paul is with them, they could accuse Jose of kidnapping. Finally, despite contact with the parent to avoid trouble with the law, is the love and compassion we feel for what moves Pablo Jose to keep its word and ensure that you are with the father. It has become a child again, in someone to protect your child like, someone to give him what he is crying at the time, care, support, affection, security, protection.
4. TYPE OF ABUSE THAT SHOWN. IDENTIFIERS
abuse that occurs in the film is both physical and psychological, emotional. Actually, the first implies the second, say it is a consequence that may not occur, all physical abuse, leads to a psychological consequence one way or another, and more if a child what they are talking about. Unfortunately, this is something that will take him all his life, something that made you grow up in advance by live scenes in which nobody should ever be involved. It is not just Paul who is abused, we can speak of the mother. In the film does not see any beat to it, but a push and a slap when it tries to stop Mariano in its objective of promoting child battering. So all we can deduce about the treatment and Mariano disorder that surely she has also been victims of these beatings. What is clear is that psychologically it does not seem to have more ambitions in life stand beside her son, and yet is unable to brake and stop these outbreaks of violence from her husband. A relationship that probably was broken long ago, where the only thing that keeps them together is the appearance to the people by Mariano, and the fear felt by both Paul and his mother. A grandmother named not because it is not appropriate in some situations to have another healthy alternative, it is dependent on his family. Indicators could find for this are apparent marks on his face, blood, and the coup that saw Alfredo on the back of Paul when he took off his shirt. Another example to consider is that Paul is forced by his father to work at the hardware store even in school, sometimes with the public not to save face and hide the signs of violence that remain in your body. Therefore, would be neglecting their academic aspect (negligence). Also noteworthy is the personality of our hero, partly withdrawn, vulnerable and subject to the will of the father, fearing, mature, punctual tendency to isolate moved by fear, have difficulty expressing their feelings, to talk, he escapes from home , insecurity, lack of trust in people (with other colleagues, for example), difficulty concentrating, quiet, observant. Within this physical abuse, know if you have suffered some form of sexual abuse since, despite referring to his father in the final declaration of the film as a "pig" (among other adjectives), we are not aware of that fact, as there is no noticeable drop by Paul's parents On the contrary, the authoritarian attitude of the father contradicted this.
But, it is important to stress that the figure of Mariano. He is responsible for this state of physical and psychological abuse, but this reaction is generated by other causes. Keep in mind that all the abusive person is something concrete, something that leads to it, not abuse it themselves, but because you have a disorder that makes him act that way. In this case, and only by what we know, this case is the death of a child. Unconsciously he blames this misfortune on the figure of Paul, at times hated by her father for not being the child who died. Is frustration, the hardness of the club to have a deceased son what upsets her head and makes him act so violently. I could not tell what was going through your head for such acts, perhaps indifference to her second child, relief may cry or otherwise, of suffering, channeling it into a person he wants, although he does not seem to remember it sometimes, perhaps it under grate for fear that something happens to one son who is, perhaps just angry about the life he leads and turn to frustration. I do not know, what is clear is that we are talking about an unbalanced person I can not control his violent outbursts, more like angry outbursts.
why I think he is a psychologically battered person but himself. Self-destructive. I think it's driven by this in the form of pulses, of which then is aware and conscious of his error, but end up coming back. This also causes pain in his person, knowing that it is his own family that hurts, but never acknowledged his error, the only thing I might mention is one of the final scenes of the film in which remains in the car Mariano Jose, next to Laura, smoking a cigar in silence, knowing how far this situation has come. It is a deranged person, who like other members of your family, you probably need a psychological treatment that gives them emotional stability. Actually, this is complicated by the abuse ...
5. APPROACH GOALS OF INTERVENTION IN THE CASE STUDY OF PAUL
As for the possible intervention to Paul, considered to be essential to regulate the situation, laying the foundations for what will be your life from now on, since complaint against her father who shows as the final scene is a before and after in his life. I find it really difficult to know how best to intervene, but would focus on various issues.
one hand, both Paul and his mother should receive psychological treatment, and receive appropriate support in the social field to resume her life again, aside from Mariano, at least until it was psychologically balanced. What I have clear is that if they can not bear to see Mariano, there shall be no meeting because we would be going against their will and prevent evolve favorably. It would be appropriate, therefore, that both Paul and his mother received the necessary support to be supported and coexist together without any sense of fear, and fear. This would make them self-esteem, security, bring them the reassurance they need to lead a normal life, and receive that love each other that had been repressed for so long, which would gradually coming to light. Paul would probably counting on the support of Alfredo and his family, or at least this would have been the drivers for this situation came to an end. Would be treated by professionals in a close, family without any pressure and above all understanding and respect, backed by the relevant legal framework.
On the other hand, Mariano also receive psychological treatment to address this frustration and repressed feelings that have led him to act that way. Maybe someday, when the situation was more optimal, are allowed to see your child if this would agree to that game, but until then would be kept clear of any contact that destabilize the emotional situation for both parties, this being a process measured and studied in order to avoid returning to the violent situations that we see in the film. That is, the intervention would have to take into account possible consequences of PTSD after this violent situation. Thus, the ball never need to grasp the object that accompanies him to feel safe ...
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[How to ignore, how can we be indifferent as well, and still, with those children who never grow up ... ]
